Finding Love – Old School vs New School?
What do you think is the best way to find love? Do you prefer the ‘Old School’ way of going out, socialising and meeting new people or the ‘New School’ way of online and dating apps?
With more and more people now adopting the ‘new school’ way, thanks to smartphones and technology, the dating game is evolving fast and we may have forgotten how simple it used to be. Why do we look for old school magic in our relationships today?
But instead of comparing the old and the new, or dividing our readership between the good old fashioned ‘meet & greeters’ and the new age ‘swipe rights’, maybe it’s more important to identify what we can learn and apply from each era?
Old School
Space. You didn’t have to call each other so many times every day or meet every single weekend, taking over each other’s personal lives. The irregular meetings (and build up to them) were something special in themselves.
Picking up the phone. Yes, not texting, snapchatting or emoji wars. Communication was much more clearer when you had an actual conversation.
Taking it steady. You didn’t need to announce your love to the world on the first date. It took a long time for people to get to know each other, but it was worth it. Give yourself some time to fall in love naturally.
New School
Technology. Use it to your advantage. The best thing about technology and dating apps today is that you can get tailored recommendations based your interests, so maybe there’s a better chance you’ll find someone who fits.
Breaking stereotypes. Men don’t always have to pay, women can ask men out, and you don’t need to play hard to get. The liberal nature of today’s relationships and communication means these rules now don’t matter.
Confidence attracts. Be who you are, and if you’re interested in someone, let it show, they’re not going to realise any other way.
More options. You can come across people outside of your social circle, town or even country. If it works well, you can still bring them to your place.
If you’re looking for love, you don’t need to take a side, try mixing it up. Use the advantages of technology but take it slow and keep the communication personal. There’s no one size fits all, don’t let this ‘new norm’ confuse your morals or your marriages, so pick and choose what works for you.